Hi dear parents,
This article will give you an INSIGHT on the cases of child abuse.... Did you noticed that some times your children keep a distance from something like any person or anything like a programme on T. V., classes, tution etc. Is there a change in behavior if they come in front of some one....I am talking a change like looking down, keeping a distance from someone, fear of something. Then there may be a chance of threat to them from that person. That person could be anyone from your room servant, the tutor coming to take home tuitions, the teacher in the school, the rikshow or school bus driver, etc.
There are many cases of this which has harmed children mentality, emotionally of persuing things. When they get wrong interpretation of something, they used to avoid that thing and the things similar to it. This may hamper their growth emotionally, physically and sexually. As a result the children who were good at something earlier, are not responding that thing now, or are running away from that thing..... Are you getting my point?
The best way to elaborate what I want to tell is the situation in the movie ' Tare Jamin Par'. How to handle such situations?.... I am suggesting some of the ways, if you have also dealt with same situation then please mention it in the comment bellow.
1) Avoid denial and remain calm:- A comman reaction to child abuse is shocking and denial. However if you show denial then the child will find it difficult to continue and will shut down. Please be as calm and reassuring as you can.
2) Don't interrogate :- Let the child explain you in his or her own words, what happened, don't interrogate or ask leading questions.
3) Reassure the child that they did nothing wrong :- It takes courage for a child to come for word and report about abuse. Reassure him or her that you take what is said seriously, and it's not a child's fault.
4) Safety comes first:- If it seems that your safety or the child's safety is under stake, then leave the matter to the professionals.
I have seen some parents who unknowingly impose their abusive behavior on their child. Remember you are the most important person in your child's world. It's worth the effort to make a change, if you have done something that had hurt your child emotionally, physically or sexually.
Change your reactions :-
1) Learn what is age appropriate and what is not. Having realistic expectations of what children can handle at certain age will help to avoid frustration. For example, children don't have the tendency to sit quiet. They will surely mess up the things. Take it for granted.
2) Develope new parenting techniques. Parenting books, seminars, classes are there to help you.
3) Take care of yourself. If you are getting tried due to workload then keep yourself calm or otherwise the victims of your frustration are your children and the family members. Doing yoga and going for a healthy walk with your family can make a change.
Child abuse is not up to your children, there are lots of children in the world who are deprived of their childhood and beautiful emotions. This is my small effort in stopping it. THINK WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR THEM.....
Thank you.
Post your replies.
This article will give you an INSIGHT on the cases of child abuse.... Did you noticed that some times your children keep a distance from something like any person or anything like a programme on T. V., classes, tution etc. Is there a change in behavior if they come in front of some one....I am talking a change like looking down, keeping a distance from someone, fear of something. Then there may be a chance of threat to them from that person. That person could be anyone from your room servant, the tutor coming to take home tuitions, the teacher in the school, the rikshow or school bus driver, etc.
There are many cases of this which has harmed children mentality, emotionally of persuing things. When they get wrong interpretation of something, they used to avoid that thing and the things similar to it. This may hamper their growth emotionally, physically and sexually. As a result the children who were good at something earlier, are not responding that thing now, or are running away from that thing..... Are you getting my point?
The best way to elaborate what I want to tell is the situation in the movie ' Tare Jamin Par'. How to handle such situations?.... I am suggesting some of the ways, if you have also dealt with same situation then please mention it in the comment bellow.
1) Avoid denial and remain calm:- A comman reaction to child abuse is shocking and denial. However if you show denial then the child will find it difficult to continue and will shut down. Please be as calm and reassuring as you can.
2) Don't interrogate :- Let the child explain you in his or her own words, what happened, don't interrogate or ask leading questions.
3) Reassure the child that they did nothing wrong :- It takes courage for a child to come for word and report about abuse. Reassure him or her that you take what is said seriously, and it's not a child's fault.
4) Safety comes first:- If it seems that your safety or the child's safety is under stake, then leave the matter to the professionals.
I have seen some parents who unknowingly impose their abusive behavior on their child. Remember you are the most important person in your child's world. It's worth the effort to make a change, if you have done something that had hurt your child emotionally, physically or sexually.
Change your reactions :-
1) Learn what is age appropriate and what is not. Having realistic expectations of what children can handle at certain age will help to avoid frustration. For example, children don't have the tendency to sit quiet. They will surely mess up the things. Take it for granted.
2) Develope new parenting techniques. Parenting books, seminars, classes are there to help you.
3) Take care of yourself. If you are getting tried due to workload then keep yourself calm or otherwise the victims of your frustration are your children and the family members. Doing yoga and going for a healthy walk with your family can make a change.
Child abuse is not up to your children, there are lots of children in the world who are deprived of their childhood and beautiful emotions. This is my small effort in stopping it. THINK WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR THEM.....
Thank you.
Post your replies.
