Living....Child-Free!!!

Hi all energetic, enthusiastic, loving and caring.. Parents.
           From the title of this post, you might think that you have visited some other blog..hold on its the same blog and same me. Yesterday I have came across a beautiful article in The Hindu Sunday magazine, 'Footloose and fancy free' by Gauri Dange. It's about living child-free life by choice. This culture is now-a-days becoming very common, specially in urban, capitalist intelligencia... I was thinking why people choose not to have a child?..and therefore I found this article very useful to convey my massage to you all....
             Let me clear you all one thing that I am against this culture. Our beautiful country has a long tradition of considering children as a GOD'S GIFT...when we were unknown of the future... As we know I past peopel had 5 or some time more children...and we might have heard the bed time stories about a king who had 4 wives. Prior to the Family planning era...peopel raised their children, thinking them as the support for their old age. And off course the children were also that much matured to understand how the things are working and how their parents had nurtured them. So they had the feeling of 'debt of love' and a great respect for their parents which encourage them not to hurt their parents..I think you might have gone through the same fase.
                We became the one of the most populous countries. Industrialization has turned the wheels of our life and life became so fast that now it seems that it's running as if the breakers are failed...and to save ourselves, we, instaid of jumping aside...continually giving a direction to the break failed life...Where we will land up or I might say, end up then?..no one knows!!! In this struggle for existence the God's Gifts were neglected, in such away that sometimes we think that "it's better not to have a child!!"...
                I want to ask that "Does not having child will solve all the problems???.." What if your parents have taken a decision of not having you?.. This is my personal opinion that, the PARENTS choosing not have a child want to get rid of their duty...not want to Waste their precious time and money as well on the very minute and useless things. But I have seen them enjoying with their friends children..a slightest thought of loosing something might not allowed them to sleep at many nights.
                 And what about the other partner...if he or she want to enjoy the parenthood..why should they share the burden of the other partner?... He or she might not tell you and compromise with you for the sake of your satisfaction and love. It will hurt you more when you see the hidden affection towards children in them while paying with children of others. I have read another article in Marathi newspaper supplement, in which the writer had portrayed the future of ours..when the things get advanced...when there will be the technology of postponing the delivery...parents will sacrifice their children future for their exciting job opportunities... When there will be deep sleep boxes..parents will keep their Young ones in it, because there will not be Dada-Dadi to take care off them...And after the planned retirements they will spend their life with their child at the age of 80.
               My purpose of writing this bolg will be in vain if I do not help you by telling the way out...there are lot more people who are experts..I am sharing what I feel about this...First thing having a child at the right stage of your life is very important. And you should be confident that you will take great care of them..I am totally agreed that in this metro life its little diffult, but at least we can try...don't loose the hope..Don't think that how am I going to fulfill their demands and expenses?..Have faith in you..if a poorest person living in a bit can do it then why not you?..We have plenty of examples of IAS, IPS who came from worst backgrounds..Second thing..I have seen..children are the energy, hope and encouragement of the parents, please don't loose it. They are the one who shape your world, they are the one who really care for you...PROVIDED THAT you have nurtured them well.
               It's very common..and I don't have to tell you that.."children copy their parents"..They want to become like them...if you behave rudely with your parents or if you disobey them, they will surely do the same thing with you...because they copy you...if you smoke the will too...if you quarrel and use bad words against your partner..they will do the same...And this time you DONT HAVE THE RIGHT to tell them that THIS IS WRONG. So be cautious if you want your child to be the best...you must become best..
                 To have a child or not is your personal opinion... We have also seen number of children in the ANATH ASHRAM...waiting to get adopted...

Thank you,
Worm regards..

Child Pornography

Hi,
My first topic of discussion is "child pornography"...
          This is the stringent topic...and many of the PARENTS even don't want to discuss such topic with their children... The first thing that hit our mind is...FROM WHERE TO START ?...Dear parents...most of u wl b surprised to know that one of friends, who s teaching in a primary school, has confronted a situation where a child ws complaining about his friend...that he is talking about the nudidity and sex, which he has seen on mobile...and these children were from THIRD standard...
             And this is more surprising to know that....from where he found that video or pictures was...his parent's mobile...My friend told this to her senior... And what they do is to scold the child and worn him nt to do it again...I think this is my the right way to resolve this problem...
             Firstly the teacher should make a good conversation with the child...asking him skillfully from where he or she get or watched such things?...is there someone who is promoting them to watch it?...try to make him or her comfortable...and plz do not scold or shout at them...The very common observation is that when we oppose the children from doing something which is bad...the children knowingly do the thing to see what happens...so plz do not scold...the best way out is to divert his or her curiosity towords the science behind that thing...
        There is a need of SEX EDUCATION in India...and I think there is no restriction of age in doing this...what we generally think is that our children will not understand this or they are not able to know such things....and we destroy their curiosity and this gives rise to the Devil instinct of finding wt the parents or elders are hiding from ous...
            Teacher, after such incidents, must keep attention on the child and try to analyse that...have he or she still pursuing the same things...that too nt by spying kind of thing...you cn make a healthy conversation with them and cn take out the things they hiding...
              The most important task is of PARENTS... Wt u have to do is....first of all clear your mind set that your child cn nt do such things....this wl hurt u more...plz be prepare to face any situation... Dnt respond such situations aggressively... Try to understand your child's psychology... As I have told earlier..if u scold them the wl surely try to chase the same thing....so be relax...try to make the child comfortable... This is very important.. Take him or her to home...or a peaceful place n discuss with him what he has seen?..where he get those things?...is there someone who is showing that things to them forcefully or for the sake of joy...?...plz try to figure out this things...after all u know your child better...and must behave very carefully with him or her in this situation...
           Remember if u scold or shout or beat him or her...u wl create a permanent barrier between your child's thoughts and yourself... Let him or her speek...let them free their inner emotions....plz listen them carefully... Unless u wl nt do this...u wl never ever b able to solve this problem...
            This is wt I have seen and observed...plz share your views and problems you are facing in doing away the situation like this....this will help other parents facing the same situation.... This is the platform I am giving you...feel free to share your ideas on the same matter and wt you have done to resolve it..

Thanks..
Sushil

A slight Introduction...

Hi everyone,
This is Sushil from Maharashtra(India). I am preparing for competitive exams..I have completed post graduation in Physics. I have worked as a lecturer at Government poly technic and also for private tutions for 11th and 12th std. students...
      The purpose of creating this blog is to guide the "PARENTS" about "How to nurture their Young ones?!!"...
       Here I will discuss some of the trivial problems parents facing, specially in Indian society, where the parent and pupil relations are not so healthy...I want to clear that this is not the case in every Indian family. There are families who really share a beautiful relationship with their children...
              Your valuable comments will encourage me and other readers of this blog...plz share your views and experiences...so that we all can build a good family and a good nation as well.

Thank you.
Regards..