Hi all energetic, enthusiastic, loving and caring.. Parents.
From the title of this post, you might think that you have visited some other blog..hold on its the same blog and same me. Yesterday I have came across a beautiful article in The Hindu Sunday magazine, 'Footloose and fancy free' by Gauri Dange. It's about living child-free life by choice. This culture is now-a-days becoming very common, specially in urban, capitalist intelligencia... I was thinking why people choose not to have a child?..and therefore I found this article very useful to convey my massage to you all....
Let me clear you all one thing that I am against this culture. Our beautiful country has a long tradition of considering children as a GOD'S GIFT...when we were unknown of the future... As we know I past peopel had 5 or some time more children...and we might have heard the bed time stories about a king who had 4 wives. Prior to the Family planning era...peopel raised their children, thinking them as the support for their old age. And off course the children were also that much matured to understand how the things are working and how their parents had nurtured them. So they had the feeling of 'debt of love' and a great respect for their parents which encourage them not to hurt their parents..I think you might have gone through the same fase.
We became the one of the most populous countries. Industrialization has turned the wheels of our life and life became so fast that now it seems that it's running as if the breakers are failed...and to save ourselves, we, instaid of jumping aside...continually giving a direction to the break failed life...Where we will land up or I might say, end up then?..no one knows!!! In this struggle for existence the God's Gifts were neglected, in such away that sometimes we think that "it's better not to have a child!!"...
I want to ask that "Does not having child will solve all the problems???.." What if your parents have taken a decision of not having you?.. This is my personal opinion that, the PARENTS choosing not have a child want to get rid of their duty...not want to Waste their precious time and money as well on the very minute and useless things. But I have seen them enjoying with their friends children..a slightest thought of loosing something might not allowed them to sleep at many nights.
And what about the other partner...if he or she want to enjoy the parenthood..why should they share the burden of the other partner?... He or she might not tell you and compromise with you for the sake of your satisfaction and love. It will hurt you more when you see the hidden affection towards children in them while paying with children of others. I have read another article in Marathi newspaper supplement, in which the writer had portrayed the future of ours..when the things get advanced...when there will be the technology of postponing the delivery...parents will sacrifice their children future for their exciting job opportunities... When there will be deep sleep boxes..parents will keep their Young ones in it, because there will not be Dada-Dadi to take care off them...And after the planned retirements they will spend their life with their child at the age of 80.
My purpose of writing this bolg will be in vain if I do not help you by telling the way out...there are lot more people who are experts..I am sharing what I feel about this...First thing having a child at the right stage of your life is very important. And you should be confident that you will take great care of them..I am totally agreed that in this metro life its little diffult, but at least we can try...don't loose the hope..Don't think that how am I going to fulfill their demands and expenses?..Have faith in you..if a poorest person living in a bit can do it then why not you?..We have plenty of examples of IAS, IPS who came from worst backgrounds..Second thing..I have seen..children are the energy, hope and encouragement of the parents, please don't loose it. They are the one who shape your world, they are the one who really care for you...PROVIDED THAT you have nurtured them well.
It's very common..and I don't have to tell you that.."children copy their parents"..They want to become like them...if you behave rudely with your parents or if you disobey them, they will surely do the same thing with you...because they copy you...if you smoke the will too...if you quarrel and use bad words against your partner..they will do the same...And this time you DONT HAVE THE RIGHT to tell them that THIS IS WRONG. So be cautious if you want your child to be the best...you must become best..
To have a child or not is your personal opinion... We have also seen number of children in the ANATH ASHRAM...waiting to get adopted...
Thank you,
Worm regards..
From the title of this post, you might think that you have visited some other blog..hold on its the same blog and same me. Yesterday I have came across a beautiful article in The Hindu Sunday magazine, 'Footloose and fancy free' by Gauri Dange. It's about living child-free life by choice. This culture is now-a-days becoming very common, specially in urban, capitalist intelligencia... I was thinking why people choose not to have a child?..and therefore I found this article very useful to convey my massage to you all....
Let me clear you all one thing that I am against this culture. Our beautiful country has a long tradition of considering children as a GOD'S GIFT...when we were unknown of the future... As we know I past peopel had 5 or some time more children...and we might have heard the bed time stories about a king who had 4 wives. Prior to the Family planning era...peopel raised their children, thinking them as the support for their old age. And off course the children were also that much matured to understand how the things are working and how their parents had nurtured them. So they had the feeling of 'debt of love' and a great respect for their parents which encourage them not to hurt their parents..I think you might have gone through the same fase.
We became the one of the most populous countries. Industrialization has turned the wheels of our life and life became so fast that now it seems that it's running as if the breakers are failed...and to save ourselves, we, instaid of jumping aside...continually giving a direction to the break failed life...Where we will land up or I might say, end up then?..no one knows!!! In this struggle for existence the God's Gifts were neglected, in such away that sometimes we think that "it's better not to have a child!!"...
I want to ask that "Does not having child will solve all the problems???.." What if your parents have taken a decision of not having you?.. This is my personal opinion that, the PARENTS choosing not have a child want to get rid of their duty...not want to Waste their precious time and money as well on the very minute and useless things. But I have seen them enjoying with their friends children..a slightest thought of loosing something might not allowed them to sleep at many nights.
And what about the other partner...if he or she want to enjoy the parenthood..why should they share the burden of the other partner?... He or she might not tell you and compromise with you for the sake of your satisfaction and love. It will hurt you more when you see the hidden affection towards children in them while paying with children of others. I have read another article in Marathi newspaper supplement, in which the writer had portrayed the future of ours..when the things get advanced...when there will be the technology of postponing the delivery...parents will sacrifice their children future for their exciting job opportunities... When there will be deep sleep boxes..parents will keep their Young ones in it, because there will not be Dada-Dadi to take care off them...And after the planned retirements they will spend their life with their child at the age of 80.
My purpose of writing this bolg will be in vain if I do not help you by telling the way out...there are lot more people who are experts..I am sharing what I feel about this...First thing having a child at the right stage of your life is very important. And you should be confident that you will take great care of them..I am totally agreed that in this metro life its little diffult, but at least we can try...don't loose the hope..Don't think that how am I going to fulfill their demands and expenses?..Have faith in you..if a poorest person living in a bit can do it then why not you?..We have plenty of examples of IAS, IPS who came from worst backgrounds..Second thing..I have seen..children are the energy, hope and encouragement of the parents, please don't loose it. They are the one who shape your world, they are the one who really care for you...PROVIDED THAT you have nurtured them well.
It's very common..and I don't have to tell you that.."children copy their parents"..They want to become like them...if you behave rudely with your parents or if you disobey them, they will surely do the same thing with you...because they copy you...if you smoke the will too...if you quarrel and use bad words against your partner..they will do the same...And this time you DONT HAVE THE RIGHT to tell them that THIS IS WRONG. So be cautious if you want your child to be the best...you must become best..
To have a child or not is your personal opinion... We have also seen number of children in the ANATH ASHRAM...waiting to get adopted...
Thank you,
Worm regards..
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